Iris Engels
Amsterdam, Hilversum, North Holland region
Role: Employment mediator, Coach, Systemic Coach and Mediator
My Mediation Style
Quiet, powerful presence - working with what is I work from attention and trust. Making silences audible and tensions visible creates space for movement. My style is characterized by calmness, clarity and depth. With systemic perspectives and my legal background, I help people to truly understand themselves and each other. Whether it is about conflicts, stagnant communication or patterns within families or teams: I guide from what presents itself in the moment.
About Me
I am Iris, mediator, systemic coach, conversation leader and trainer. In my work I offer people and teams a place where you can be heard without judgment, where trust grows and where real change can begin. With my background as a staff lawyer and over seventeen years of experience as an attorney, I have learned to listen sharply and reduce complex issues to their essence. At the same time, I noticed that not everything is about right or wrong. What is often missing is real dialogue and connection.
Favorite Mediation Quote
"In your vulnerability, your light shines."
For me, this sentence goes to the heart of my work and of human encounter. It is precisely where we dare to show our vulnerability that connection is created.
Proud of
I am proud that I had the courage to hang up my robe and follow my own path as a mediator and coach. It is special to now be able to guide people and teams towards connection, where before there was distance and lack of understanding. I am also proud of the safe atmosphere I manage to create time and again, in which people feel invited to share their stories.
What parties say about me
"Iris immediately knows how to create a safe atmosphere where everything is allowed to be there. She listens with full attention and without judgment."
"She gets right to the core without taking over. This made me feel truly seen and set in motion."
"Her calm presence works through - even long after the conversation."
"What I find special about Iris is how she can be soft and sharp at the same time. She names what is needed, with respect and a sense of timing."
"With Iris, space is created where before there was only noise."
Wat is de leukste vraag die je als Mediator gekregen hebt
"What wants to be heard that has not yet been said?"
This question often opens up new layers in the conversation. It invites stillness as well as courage. Because only when the unspoken is given space can something really change.
